Misery loves company
February 19, 2008 by Seasons
I wrote this post in July 2006 and reviewing it today, reminds me how far I have come. I cant believe how depressed I once was.
Misery loves company
This has been a cliche for a long time until recently when I discovered that I have been living it.
I joined a ’support’ group for divorced and single Fathers online a few years ago. I also find myself using the tag surfer of my blog to read on divorce experiences . In recent times, I found myself advising and commenting on the experiences of others. Reading from and interacting with these poor souls has ended up making me despondent and clearly instead of moving on, I find myself stuck in a despondency rut.
I have therefore decided to delink myself from discussions on the subject of divorce and focus on the future. No one really wins in such situations and my trying to support men who are going through this process leaves me absorbing their pain. I wish to go ‘cold turkey, by being selfish.
Hopefully by ignoring it, I will be able to resume my previous life
Sometimes you have to be selfish and cut ties that are pulling you down. Maybe its better this way, you could be stronger than you think. Wish you all the best.
This was 18 months ago and I actually did move on
It looks like men take longer at ‘emotional’ healing. My bro that is in the same situation as you seems stuck in that rut too.
I agree. My ex-wife moved on pretty fast. Tell your bro to hang in there
I agree with gish, cut yourself off from that group, if it is doing you more harm than good. All the best.
I did cut myself off and am better off for it
If it time to move on, its time to move on! All the best.
Hiyo mambo ya Misery loves company is soo true. There are three discussion boards that I have had to go cold turkey on juu ya the misery and the absorption of other peoples’ issues.
All the best and you will get out of the rut and WILL find someone worthy.
I hope I will find someone worthy and most importantly have the wisdom to identify them when they come along.
Moving on is something that is a daily step by step process. You are so fortunate that you realize that company is better away from the mob. May the sun still rise on your situation and give you clarity and progress!
Thanks and karibu
Congrats for how far you’ve come.
Your daughters are lucky and blessed to have you for a Dad and I hope the keep giving you the motisha you need to keep your chin up!
They are what keeps me going and give my life purpose. My business does the same on a lesser front
am sure you made a difference in someone’s life. you helped, despite what you were going through…..you are a good person.
Am sure I did make a difference but I also ended up taking up their problems vicariously
and here lies the reason I used to keep a journal- because sometimes you look back and can be grateful that you came through.
Like you, I used to. This became my journal. Your post on labels is almost done