Randomness: “The secret” and celibacy
May 12, 2008 by Seasons
Is it only me or does the rest of you feel the ‘The Secret‘ is over-hyped? I grudgingly read the book and skimmed over the DVD but I still don’t get what the big issue is. There is no secret about the power of positive thinking and so the writer did not unveil anything new..even if it is called the ‘law of attraction’ Maybe am a slow coz I just don’t get it. Do you?
It is amazing that am on this self enforced celibacy for two months now!……I tell you being on the BT is haaaaard( no pun intended). I am bound to meet a friend who was once a lover later on this week and we have been exchanging these ’seditious’ text messages. She reckons that her boyfriend wants to wait till they are married before they have sex… and the dude is 35! ( Do such people still exist?) Anyhow, she reckons that she is frustrated and would want a no-strings-attached romp when I visit this weekend. Whats a man to do?
I am I the only man who feels nothing for English Soccer? Those who sent me messages about their team winning a certain premiership wasted their airtime.. I was watching project Project fame with my kids.
There are so many things that I had planned to do once I started my leave but I know that I have not even started and already ‘eaten’ into one week of my leave…but I have been to the gym, caught up with my reading and slept a lot. I still plan to paint the garage, view of few properties( am shopping for a house) and have dinner with farmgal before I leave for Europe.
Rafiki, take it from a girl. there’s no such thing as a ‘no-strings-attached’ romp, especially with a former lover.
What you will have is immensely good ‘missed-you’ sex, kwanza now that she is all frustrated and pent up and stuff, and then she will kick back into ‘let’s see if we can pretend it didn’t mean anything’ mode
or possibly ‘how can i convince him that this really meant something’ syndrome. Be warned.
but it’ll be a lot of fun…
Am actually looking forward to the visit but am not sure I want the sex….
yay! got my avatar back! that pink thingie was sooooooo annoying!
Seasons, I giggled on reading the ‘haaaarrrd’!!! I think you are better off doing a ‘no strings attached’ with someone else than a former lover especially that you are single now and she is having some difficulties her ends..
I agree..I need a no strings attached thingie..coz the clinging is getting me down..hence I am still on BT
I liked every bit of ‘the secret’ dvd. Strangely I haven’t gotten myself to read the book although I have a copy of it. True there is no secret to the power of positive thinking but what the ’secret’ has done for me is that it serves as a constant reminder on the art of positive thinking and serves as a motivation whenever my positive thinking tanks are emptied.
Cheers.
Am glad it inspires you..I still dont get it
I think angie is okay, t.k is the baddest guy as far I’m concerned ans scar is just plain rude. But i do believe one thing,some people are meant to be dragged out of the stage. One guy claim he came to sing a song by booby Val. when it was actually a song by Akon. He sang the chorus so bad, my cat purred.
Ahem…..I think you are commenting on that post that I closed comments on
I havent watched or read the Secret yet, I am not the greatest believer of self-help books but I read them all the same so I will check out the link after this.
It can never be ‘no strings attached’ for me with the Ex (s), there is a whole knot of strings, ropes etc which would be extremely hard for me to untangle lakini as CB says be warned things may not be as plain as they seem.
I started watching The Secret DVD and I have to be honest and say that there is nothing really ground breaking but it still makes for good viewing for those not in the know.
The only thing I noticed in what I saw is the lack of emphasis on action in the direction you want to go, positive thought and action are what bear results.
I think you should go for the NSA strokes but keep in mind its just that and remind the mama too in case she catches feelings.
If i were you (which i am not), i would resist the idea of having a no strings attached with a former lover. Unless the said was a no strings attached loving from the start.
Do it, just as long as you find out for sure that she actually HAS a fiancee, couz that one who wants to wait until marriage sounds a bit too unreal..am not being funny, if it is you who broke up with her, she could be looking for a way back, if she broke up with you, she could have realised her mistake. either way think carefully about it!
I know being on BT is haaard (LOOOL) but, trust me dramas of exes are worse!
The Secret definitely got to a place where the hype far superseded the substance of it. There are actually people who taking the law of attraction to be the only law in the Universe that works, sit and just meditate and focus on getting money as their way to riches.
I think one thing that was definitely amiss was discussing how the law of attraction can properly miss with action.
Wow! I actually meet another Kenyan who never got caught up by soccer fever. I really can’t explain how it happened, but the bug never hit me. World Cup Fever hits me like a tidal wave, but in between the Cups, nothing……..
*giggles a little*
I am in a similar situation with you, on the BT for a minute, EX waltzing into the State for a weekend to catch up, mightily tempted cos you know, it’s haaaarrrddd and all. What a girl to do?
I lived in England so loving or not loving soccer was not an option, although I am now kinda getting immune to the whole (putting fingers in ears cos the whole football/soccer interchangeable makes me wanna punch someone)… yes … football mania.
Give Farmgal a kiss, yes that one, and pretend it was from me, she will forgive [You] me )
aii Guess, heheheh!!
Tis haaaaaaaard indeed, watch your back with the ex though, as has been intimated in the other comments, she may wish to make a comeback.
football? i have the attention of a gnat so give me a book instead.
No strings attached, why not? I would do it in a heart beat just to get that sexual frustration out of the way.
Season, go for it, kwani? I echo your question..kwani?
The Secret- No secret. Just an attempt at repackaging positive thinking and faith concepts.
BT- Try doing eight years! Yes I know you probably dont believe it is possible but it is.
8 years??? Nope I dont believe you
I have a question, just one.
Your Ex- why did she pick you to have the “no strings attached romp”.Did she think, oh I miss him or did she think he is easy, he will give it up?
She was a clande….I must have been a great lover dont you think?
Okay, maybe I have two questions.
Her current boyfriend wants to wait till they are married or till HE IS MARRIED? Which one?Why I ask? Maybe he knows something you don’t.
Till THEY get married…
What’s a man to do? I think this man should buy a book called “football for dummies”. hehehehehehehee.
Having said that I wish not to understand football, although when the African cup is on- I watch it. Why? Coz 2/3 of the men who will walk through my office doors will talk to me about it.
Better run from the NSA thingie otherwise the ropes will just tie themselves as you people deny it. They are always there.
Did someone say dinner…yummmmyyyyy….cant wait! We are on
Oh and English soccer rocks!
We will excuse you coz you lived there… so will you be watching local soccer? I hope you will support mahakama or Mathare United. From what I hear, they are really good sides..oh and you can watch them on DSTV too
I read the secret and I have to agree, it is a re-packaging of positive thinking. I must say it lacked meat, nevertheless an ok read.
At this rate, I foresee a reunion with your ex-wife! Surely, if you can stand an old girl-friend, I am left thinking that the reason why seasons is ‘alone’ for now is that he may be, just maybe, he is getting his house cleaned up for something grand.
Never! I would never go back there! This chick is not an ex-girlfriend…she is an ex-lover or clande.
The ’secret’ is proof that con artists still exist, i wouldnt recommend it to anyone. I felt cheated after watching the DVD, i watched till the end waiting to see if the words “U’ve just been punked” would appear.
I feel you on that..I felt punked
What irks me most about English Soccer is when the guy in the street brags of how ” We won” and am thinking WE! did he just say We!? where do people get that false sense of belonging?
Being an international rugby fan makes sense coz at least you can see the Kenyan flag somewhere and our team is good…
You just nailed it. I commented on Archers blog exactly on the fact that many soccer supporters claim ‘we’ this and that when on English soccer..its so pathetic that those guys know nothing about the game. Any other sport and you will find that the supporters ‘understand’ the game. eg. Rugby or Basketball supporters will watch school contests or even KCCT play Kenya poly and enjoy the match. Most English soccer supporters have no knowledge of any other league or even watch ‘ grassroot’ matches
The Secret should have remained a secret - there’s nothing there that you won’t find elsewhere. I threw it out the moment Oprah devoted a whole show to how wonderful it is.
As for soccer - we cannot deny that it is also entertainment. In Uganda, where I happen to have been borned, our local soccer league isnt worth a smidgen of rat poo. And believe me, I have tried to follow. It is riddled with corruption, irresponsibility and lack of showmanship. On the local scene, I can only watch the rugby.
The English Leagues are well-packaged, well-hyped and good entertainment. And I watch their footie. However, I draw the line at all this “we” business, because there is no we between Old Trafford and the slums of Kampala, but I will not pass up the good entertainment either.
On the nsa go ahead! i kept reading how Man U rocks and was wondering what the heck it was about kumbe they’d won the premiership!! boyfie feels nothing for soccer were usually lost for words when someone asks where were watching an “important” game which we had no idea about! Rugby rocks. Any idea where I can get the latest tees?
anotha quick one.. since she was a clande she just wants what she used to get before I don’t see why now would be different!! God knows both of u need offloading!!!! hehehehe!! till marriage pleez! what planet is that guy from i’d never marry such a guy maybe he has sexual issues which u discover after signing on the dotted line!! Annulment chap chap.
Bedlam meets sodom & gomorrah. Re: the 35yo jamaa wanting to wait. I think that’s chivalrous; glad there remain some right thinking/acting jamaas (whatever his reasons are).
I read ‘The Secret’..took it’s message in with a pinch of salt, as usual. But surely you know by now that people will only read ‘designer books’…the ones that are reviewed by the ‘book clubs’…shan’t mention names.
And why do people think the idea of not having sex till marriage is preposterous? Possibly because the majority of ‘people’ are all for show and no substance? In response to your question, they DO exist. Oh, and if it’s any consolation, it’s only hard at the beginning
Get easier with time (tongue in cheek. LOL)
interesting views……. no sex b4 marriage is really hard.. i think most women give a lot of sex b4 marriage and reread the text to mean no sex after marriage…
the “immigration” officials have said yo should read your mail- gmail.
Soma yako! I replied and will see this weekend
I have watched Secrets DVD and as much as am sceptical about it, i dont think positive thinking will hurt me. Got nothing to loose anyway.
On NSA clande, go ahead hit it - if you haven’t already - lakini chunga, no chic will give or flaunt it like that if she doesn’t have an ulterior motive…
I have & never will understand RUGBY & Cricket, guess we are even. I fanatically support MY team. Yes i know i said MY….
A peck on Farmgal cheek will suffice….
The way you have dissed that book….I hope this weekend has taught you the power of positive thinking.
Wacha I wait on your Rugby write up.
like someone commented in regards to the no sex before marriage thingy….. what happens when after signing the dotted line she finds out that the dude has issues?… True Story… friend of mine is in that position, got married to a virjo and then during the honeymoon realised that things were REEEAAALLL bad…… and its been like that for over a year now…….whats he gotta do? he is pulling a CFA……
as for the secret book, i have one thing about reading those “how to” books, i keep off those like the plague
soccer…hhmmm you have seen the circus up in the KFF household? but i love rugby and the boys are really doing us proud..
if it’s no strings sex you want ….
I’m in a kinda similar situ with you in that I’ve been celibate for that last 5 months. Wouldn’t mind some mindless no strings romp…. seriously !